Back To The Basics
The time has come that most parents have been waiting for. Back to School time. And as much as I understand the need to celebrate, I definitely don’t want any of us to lose focus. Yes,someone else will now have our kids more than we do, but I wanted to give some tips not just for back to school but for all year long.
1. Get involved.
I am not talking about being a chauffeur or sitting in the stands cheering. When I say get involved I mean be an active participant. Know the key people at your child’s school. The principal, counselor and especially teachers. Why? Because these are the people who will see your kids more than you for the next 8 months or do. So email your teachers early on introduce yourself. Let them know that you are committed to your child having a successful school year as much as they are. And that you are there to work with not against them. I always did it and after they got over the initial shock they were beyond ecstatic because it is not the norm. I wanted the lines of communication open do there would be no surprises. Meaning don’t call me when the ship is already sinking. Call me when you notice there is a little water on deck.
2. Be supportive.
Now is the time to cheer. Because no one should ever be cheering for your child louder than you. Whether my kids were playing ball or in the choir I always made my presence known. And afterwards win or lose I was there to tell them how great they did even, if the altos were off key. And please understand as a single parent I know there are times when you just cannot make it. I get it, but try to keep your village was strong and tight. And before you say I don’t have embrace what you do have. I found myself connecting with other parents. Sometimes they would drop off and I would pick up. Team work definitely makes the dream work.
3. Stay connected.
Have you ever noticed when you start something, over time you can become so relaxed and fall off? This can happen when you have a routine set and feel like there is no need to check because everyone already knows what they’re supposed to do. However you can’t afford to get lost in routine when it comes to your kids in school because that’s when you are bound to miss something. What we may dismiss as “normal” teenage behavior could be much more. So ask the questions, wait for the answers, have a conversation and repeat often. I encourage you all to get back to the basics with our kids. Go old school, go back to what we would consider normal growing when you were in school. And if any of these things weren’t your normal, prepare to make it the new normal. It is never too late but it is always necessary