Did you know that February is National Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month?
And now you are wondering how or better yet when did this issue become one that was so relevant that is now recognized nationally as an awareness month? But I want you to know it is a much bigger issue than you can imagine. We all know what domestic abuse is and what it can consist of, so just replace adults with teens and you will have the same issue. Here are just a few things to be aware of.
Know who her friends are.
Notice I said friends and not just boyfriends. Because depending on the rules you have in place you not even allow her to date or have a boyfriend. But if you know who she is hanging with you will be able to recognize relationship changes. Plus you can always use her BFF as a resource when you suspect something is not quite right.
Know the signs.
Question. If your daughter came home with a black eye would you not quickly notice and inquire about it? Well, what about those signs that are not so visible? Have you noticed she is withdrawn and has started to separate herself from everyone except him? Does she have to report her every move or even worse explain it? Wait, what happens when she will only wear what he likes or go where he wants to go? Remember all abuse is not physical but it is still abuse.
Remember this is your child. That’s right, if you still provide food and shelter then that girl is your responsibility. So the moment you notice something is just not right and the signs are there, you have full permission to play “I Spy” on your daughter. Ask questions, pay attention and get answers. And always remember, love is not abuse.
Love is NOT abuse.
Until Next Time…